How to Make Change Stick.

by on June 12, 2012

Part of the journey from Stuck to UNstuck is becoming comfortable with discomfort of
BEING your new self.

There’s always a push-me-pull-you effect going on between
the old ‘normal’ and the way you’re making normal now.

In other words, if in your ‘stuck’ days you did this,
then there’s the pull to do that again every time your new-found gloriousness
feels a bit overwhelming or strange.

Darling heart, it’s totally normal to feel that pull.

And potentially disastrous to succumb to it.

It takes … DECISION to hold your new space.

It takes a big YES to the Universe.

A firm and definite statement ,

“I’m moving forward. I’m going for this’.THIS is what I want
and I will not accept a compromise.”

(If you ever doubt the sheer undiluted power of an uncompromising YES, watch this video.)


This is where I’ve been for the past week or so.

I finally surrendered to being uncomfortable for a while.

Trusting my inner guidance.

Being uncertain in my certainty.

honed my mission statement into crystal clarity,
and asked for a sign that it was the right move.

The answer came by having  the door to my comfort zone
(very lovingly) slammed shut
by a fellow cocoon-buster.

Scary-cool and oh so liberating.

And this new Goddess-Jacqui-self (note the capital G! That’s new.)
is finding that she wants to change
E V E R Y T H I N G !!!

Clear out, de-clutter, move, shift, alter, get rid of.

But then more prudent/frugal/fearful old stuck self
keeps wagging her finger, urging caution.


“Don’t give that away – you might need it.”
“Don’t burn that bridge – you might need to go back.”

And new empowered-Goddess-Jacqui-self says,
“Back is no longer an option.”

Oh my heavens, how exhilarating/terrifying/liberating is that?

I’ve been back and forth sooooo much over the past year ~
powerfully certain one day,
hiding out in doubt the next,

I became an expert in something I don’t want!!

So I changed my focus,
started looking for stability.
I had to find out what it is that makes change stick.

What keeps you moving forward when the euphoria of a new awareness wears off?

What helps you hold on to your vision of full-bloomed brilliance
even when you lose sight of it yourself?

The answer, my darling wayfinder, is to find yourself an ALLY.

Someone who is as invested in your growth as you are.

Someone who will hold up the mirror so you can see your own worth.

Someone who will point out potholes and cliff-edges because she’s walked this way before.

Sometimes, that ally can take the form of a really wise friend. Or two.

Sometimes, you’ll luck upon a whole group of them all together ~
like the ones I found at Good Vibe University
and the Goddess Circle.

Or you can take the shortcut,
and gift yourself a coach.

But however you do it, darling heart,
whatever path you choose,
it’s time to MOVE along that path.

It’s time to go from Stuck

to UNstuck

and FLY.








And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful
than the risk it took to blossom.”
~Anais Nin



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{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Jo June 12, 2012 at 9:30 pm

Yay you for getting unstuck and blossoming even more fully. Thanks for the usual dose of inspiration that you shine.
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Lori June 13, 2012 at 9:44 am

Oh yes, there’s my word again…surrender!!
You are so right, sometimes we have to “be comfortable with discomfort” that comes with growth. In the long run it’s far more painful to try and stay the same… Jacqui and thanks for the reminder 🙂 hugs
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Kellie Hosaka @entrepreneurial home business June 16, 2012 at 2:06 am

Aloha Jacqui!

Yes, I love it! And I love this quote too, it’s one of my favorites: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”~Anais Nin.

Congratulations on your decision to follow your heart and be uncomfortable! When you’re scared and excited at the same time, that’s how you know you’re on the path of success for you!

Much love,
Kellie 🙂


Elena Anne June 16, 2012 at 10:38 pm

Sometimes it is hard to change. It is even harder to be consistent in that change. That is why we should not try to change without the help of others. It is important to be within a community that can walk you through your change and provide much needed friendship and accountability when things get tough.


James Leasing@Rental Property Management June 19, 2012 at 10:14 am

It is really hard to adopt to changes that happen in our lives especially when we are so attached to our old habit. This happens because we get out of our comfort so that we may be able to find something new in our life. We never, life outside of what were used too is far way better than the old one.


Warren June 20, 2012 at 11:27 pm

For myself I hate change, and generally change accompanies growth which I am actually quite fond of! LOL So I can see living in a state of discomfort to breakthrough to a new level in whichever area in life you’re focusing on.


Amanda July 5, 2012 at 10:48 am

Why do people resist change? It’s such a simple question, yet there are so many answers. It takes a lot of inner power to conquer the obstacles in the way of moving on or taking on something new. The great thing, however, is the feeling of total freedom when you can finally say that you did it! Great and very inspirational, thanks!


Advin@do follow forum July 17, 2012 at 12:26 am

If you want to get any aim then it must requires hard efforts and never go back. There are many people leave their goal just because of little failure but it is not good to leave it. Always try to complete any goal through different ways. If you have got failure through any particular way then choose another but go for it. Thanks for your different motivations and inspiration thoughts.


Nina Corales@Driving School September 9, 2012 at 4:26 am

If you want to change the bad things about you right now and live a happier life then changing your lifestyle is crucial. You need to learn how to be ‘comfortable with discomfort’. Well, that sounds contradicting but that’s how it works.


Jessica vanZyl October 2, 2012 at 10:26 pm

So right you are Jacqueline, change sometimes needs to be uncomfortable to really make a difference in life. And the most uncomfortable moments can lead to being extra ordinary.

Regards, Jessica.
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