How To Stop Resisting the Change That Will Change Your Life

by on April 16, 2013

Nothing improves without change …
so why resist it?!

Gentle Reader, I know there are probably many things you wish were different in your life.

Maybe it’s your weight,
the state of your home,
the job you’re in.

Whatever it is, this much is certain …
it won’t change until you do.

Logically, we know this, but still we resist change.

We are creatures of habit,
of comfort,
of routine.

Change unnerves us,
even when it’s for the good.

But here’s the thing.

You’re not here to be ordinary.

You, glorious one, are here to do EPIC stuff,
to leave a legacy,
to change your corner of the world.


Because if you keep doing what you’ve always done,
you’re going to keep getting what you’ve always got.

If you keep BEING the way you’ve always been,
nothing will change around you.

And I know for an absolute certainty,
that you are far, far greater than what you’re currently manifesting.

So how do we stop resisting change?

How do we stop resisting the very things that will make us
healthier/happier/thinner/richer? (click to tweet this)

Well, sweetie pie, I’m so very glad you asked …

Here’s a few things I’m doing that are working like a charm …

Lean into it

On the other side of your resistance is everything you’ve ever wanted. This blog post goes into it in depth so I won’t repeat it here except to say that it’s been the biggest aha moment of my year so far.

Take baby steps – Do something every day.

They say it takes at least 21 days to make a new habit, a rock-solid foundation on which to build.

Don’t try do everything at once. Tony Robbins advocates ‘massive change’ but that’s never worked for me. I just end up overwhelmed, frazzled and usually back where I started within a month.

I’ve found it far more effective to take it slowly and do only as much as allows me to remain centered and in control.

Do. One. Thing.

Believe me, angel, the smallest of actions, taken with unrelenting consistency, will create the result you want. Don’t believe me? Check out  the Grand Canyon.

Nurture yourself – (I cannot stress this enough)

Self care will strengthen your resolve, reaffirm your confidence and restore your energy.

Surround yourself with the things you love. Treat yourself as you would your very best friend. Meditation, massages, walks in nature, a pretty tea tray just for you … whatever it takes, do it. Fill your own metaphorical pitcher before you try to fill others.

Allow what ever happens, to happen.

If you’re trying to change a really major habit, or navigate your way through a huge life change, allow yourself to feel whatever comes up.

Wanting to cry or being moody/introverted/thoughtful during a period of growth is perfectly natural (although it’s much easier if you’re diligently following steps 1 and 2 above!)

Take yourself off to a quiet place and let it all out if you need to. Journal pages or tear-soaked hankies … they both work to clear out the old to make room for the new.

And don’t think you have to go it alone either. Maybe you could get a coach just for this short period to guide you through and hold a space for that glorious vision you’re creating.

But then again, don’t assume that making a change needs to be hard either. Sometimes, change can be as easy as rethinking what you label yourself with and choosing one that serves you.  The power of labels cannot be underestimated.

It’s how I became a goddess working for Starbucks for $7 an hour!


And finally, sweetheart, remember and remind yourself of this fact …

you are already a glorious, confident, capable goddess.

The changes you’re making might look like ‘new stuff’ from the outside, but really,

you’re just UNCOVERING what’s always been there.

You’re revealing the utter brilliance of YOU that’s been cloaked over the years without you noticing.

Revel in your awesomeness, sweetheart.

And the world will follow your lead.




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Coleman Jackson September 20, 2013 at 3:05 am


Pretty good topic for article and nice writing. I am totally agreed with your first line “Nothing improves without change” As change is the law of nature and it is good to change with time and need. But sometimes we try to change things at once and it happens in rare case. Generally things changes with our baby steps toward our destination and as well as with regular observation. so keep trying keep changing is basic funda for good changes.


steve werner October 14, 2013 at 10:51 am

Great post.

I also believe in short consistent steps forward every day.

Massive change is like going on a starvation diet. It works for a while.

Tiny consistent steps forward build a foundation. Foundations are hard to break 🙂


steve werner´s last blog post ..I Wanted To Be Wealthy Until I Found Out I Was


Jacqueline Gates October 14, 2013 at 11:36 am

Tiny consistent steps are absolutely the way to real change, Steve. And so often we don’t notice it until we look back and see how far we’ve come. Thanks so much for visiting, Steve. And I absolutely love the post you linked to here.


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