Leadership ~ What It Is, and What It Isn’t

by on February 2, 2012

As I begin to build a network marketing business for the first time since The Great Quitting of January 2010, this freshly minted Business Goddess has gone back to basics.

Just been listening to a call by Andre Vatke on the Leaders’ Club 7 Day Plan about … ironically enough … LEADERSHIP.
In a word … mind-blowing.
(Or is that two words?)
Anyway, I got oodles of luscious information/awarenesses/reminders of stuff-I-know-but-don’t-practice,
  • “It’s not title or rank that define a leader. It’s attitude and action.” Andre Vatke
    Which means, sweetiepie, like I said in this video, you can position yourself as a leader from day one,
    whether you have a team or not!
  • There has to be mutual accountability.
    “Here’s what I expect from you, and here’s what you can expect from me in return.”
    See, this way you set boundaries and you don’t end up “saving” people on skype during dinner time!
  • Ongoing individual and personal support must be merit-based.
    In other words, scrumptious, if you don’t get your arse into gear and do what you’ve been told to do,
    or at least try to solve whatever problem you’re wrestling with, don’t expect your upline to be of much help.

But I had some of my biggest Aha’s right at the end, when he opened up the Q&A.

Like … how we can start doing everything for our team (ie spoonfeeding them)
out of a PERSONAL need to be useful/helpful/Ms Popularity

Oooh that one hit home!

Confession time … that used to be my driving urge, you know … being Ms Popularity,

I always felt that people would like me more if I did everything for them,
made their lives easier,
when in fact, it does them no service at all
and can be hugely detrimental to their own growth.

(Sort of like doing your 10 year old’s math homework because it’s quicker and easier
and then, please God, he’ll stop whining!)

Like … if I’m annoyed/miffed/unhappy that my upline/sponsor/mentor isn’t “helping me”,
it’s often a good idea to see if I’m doing enough to merit personal attention.

And if I am, start DEMANDING the help you need, or go find another mentor.

Now don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean that you have to be successful at whatever it is in order to ‘deserve’ that attention,
you just need to show that you’ve tried …
tried to solve that problem,
already asked Google
or rummaged through the back office for the answer.

And on the other side, as glorious sparkly leaders we need to be able to work out when someone is pouty
because they’re frustrated or because they’re just looking for virtual belly rubs.

You see the difference?

It’d be like helping your kid work through his math,
rather than just giving him the answer.

So here’s the gist of what Leadership Is and Isn’t ~

Leadership Is …

  • an attitude;
  • a Being rather than a Doing;
  • setting a good example of personal, effective action;
  • a long term commitment to the company, to your team, to your career;
  • being willing to step out in front;
  • creating a vision of what’s possible for yourself and your team, both individually and as a group;
  • holding that vision firm when they wobble;
  • mutual accountability;
  • always, ALWAYS keeping your word;
  • earned.

Leadership Isn’t …

  • dependent upon a rank or title;
  • to be used as a weapon;
  • manipulation, no matter what;
  • bought, hijacked, or inherited;
  • for sissies.

So darling heart, what do YOU think Leadership is or isn’t?

Do you see yourself as a leader?
Did you always see yourself as a leader or did you sort of end up there?

I’d love to hear your thought so do comment below, won’t you?

Oh and if you want to get more of this awesomesauce from Leaders’ Club,
give us $1 and get on the 7 Day Plan.

What you learn will completely change how you do business!

After all, this is the guy that TRAINED people like Ann Sieg and Mike Dillard.

Bliss-ings, as always






PS This is just Day 3 of the 7 day Plan material. Just imagine what I’m going to learn tomorrow!

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{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

Shelly Allen February 2, 2012 at 2:20 pm

Leadership is such a mysterious subject to some people…

This blog post surely puts it into perspective!

Leaders Club is a hidden treasure that many people in the Network Marketing industry aren’t aware of.

Core, fundamental, basic training that never changes is HUGE. Not to mention, it beats the confusing attraction marketing/lead generating systems any day!

Thanks for the post… I’m sure it will be helpful to many…:)


liz February 3, 2012 at 11:18 am

Leadership is the strong belief in oneself and one’s actions. Leadership requires integrity and courage. It is strength and not being afraid of making mistakes.
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Nancy Shields February 3, 2012 at 3:01 pm

Hello Goddess,

Lovely post and I like what Mother Teresa states about leadership – “leadership through example.”

I consider myself a leader and living by your impeccable word, being accountable, living in your truth and BEING is all part of my world. I say, check your EGO at the door and come in!

Thank you for your insight,
Bliss-ings to you,
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Lori Cullen February 4, 2012 at 4:48 pm

Thanks for that!
A couple of things I was faced with this week were rough! I needed to read and remind myself:
Leadership is not for sissies!
Holding the vision firm, even when there are wobbles!
Great post!


Lidia Abadia February 3, 2012 at 8:57 pm

Great article Jacqui!! Isn’t it interesting that the only training on leadership out there is how to use a system and train their team on how to do the same. So shallow and totally useless.

I took Leader’s Club 90 day training and it was customized and invaluable. I recommend anyone who really wants to succeed in Network Marketing to take that training and decide once and for all if this is the business model they should build.
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Kim February 4, 2012 at 9:07 am

Goddess YOU are AMAZING!!! 😉
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Tina @ wedding favors February 5, 2012 at 2:05 pm

One of the topics that is really hard to discuss.. because at times leadership must be learned and claimed.


Holly February 6, 2012 at 12:52 pm

I think that we can be a leader is some areas, but not so much in others…When we lead by example that is a huge indicator for me to see leadership~ walk the talk! I like your lists of what a leader is and isn’t, and you are right is isn’t for sissies!! Great post, Goddess!!
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Nathalie Villeneuve February 6, 2012 at 2:43 pm

Great post Jacqui…truly full of gold nuggets and wise tips! Thanks fro sharing and for introducing me to Leadership club…I’ll look into it!
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Annie@Interactive Agency February 6, 2012 at 5:05 pm

I agree about leadership being an attitude. It’s projecting confidence, initiative, and decision-making ability.


conference merchandise February 10, 2012 at 5:23 am

don’t judge your leader based on his rank and title. And don’t respect him because of his/her position. Instead respect your leader based on how your leader handles you and how your leader will provide you good leadership. It all boils down to attitude and proper ways of handling the team.


Jacqueline Gates February 12, 2012 at 9:12 pm

Agreed, wholeheartedly!


Alicia@internetMarketing February 15, 2012 at 3:21 am

When I read what leadership isn’t, I feel like i need to send that part of this post to the person I know who uses his leadership as a threat, a weapon, an intimidation factor. that’s not leadership!
Leadership is a privilege!
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Danica Green@Shopping Bags February 21, 2012 at 8:34 pm

Leadership in not about the power you have obtained from your position or rank it is about empowering other individuals and teaching them how to be a leader.


Kellie Hosaka March 11, 2012 at 12:00 am

Aloha Jacqui!

How did I miss this wonderful post on Leadership? I love what you stated about what Leadership is and what it isn’t. Today with social media and the many “tribes’ being created everywhere, leadership is truly needed everywhere and to whatever extent the tribe needs. I love the environment today where I see so much TEAM (Together Everyone Achieves More) -Work occurring all around us!

Thank you for sharing your insights!

Much love & aloha,
Kellie 🙂
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Ball Handling Xtreme April 25, 2012 at 11:25 am

Leadership for me is setting a good example to the people around him. And also willing to step out in front creating a vision of what’s possible for yourself and your team, both individually and as a group. We should not use leadership in a wrong doing, the people choose you because they have trust.
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Nina Corales@Driving Lessons October 19, 2012 at 9:50 pm

Leadership is not a title or a rank that one should use as a weapon for threatening his followers. Leadership is a great opportunity to guide people on the right path.


Elaine Salt@Rental Property Management October 28, 2012 at 3:12 am

A friend once asked me, when did I know that I am a leader? I answered him, “I started as a leader and considered my self one when I started to know how to follow.” This post is insightful.


Marcene Markakis September 5, 2014 at 4:21 am

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absense of fear. ~Mark Twain


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