Photoshop Me!

by on January 26, 2009

I have so often wondered what I would look like if I had access to the grooming, pampering and airbrushing that the stars have.

Well, thanks to my friend and photographer extraordinaire Jimmy Flix – now I know.

And staring at myself, “practically perfect in every way”, I am buffeted by some very mixed emotions.

  • Longing – oh how I wish I really looked like this! No wrinkles, blotches, and the racoon-type circles under the eyes are gone.
  • Envy – not easy to admit, but deep down I am just a teeny-weeny bit jealous of the women who can afford to have the kind of polishing, treatments, and yes, procedures that achieve this kind of result in the real world.
  • Resignation – now really, let’s face it, I am never actually going to look this good in real life.
  • Annoyance – dammit, why not?
  • Acceptance – but it’s ok. There are those who love me anyway. Wrinkles and all.

It’s an interesting debate, though. Should one strive for this kind of glamorous perfection – presupposing of course that that is what your heart desires – or should one believe the mantra that “it’s what’s inside that matters” . Isn’t that something some well meaning parent or teacher would say – in those syrupy, sympathetic tones that leave your already fragile self-esteem shattered at your feet?

Following the mindset of the Secret, if I focus on the illusion long enough, will it not become real?
What is reality anyway, if not an illusion upon which we all agree?

I saw a Twilight Zone episode in which all women, once they reached 18 years of age, were required by the State to undergo a procedure which basically turned them into supermodels. The story centred on a girl who didn’t want to undergo this transformation, and her passionate battle to remain just as she was. I remember her stating that in making everyone beautiful, they were basically making everyone the same. In this Utopia there was no room for wrinkles, saggy skin, crooked noses – indeed, individuality of any kind.

And I do believe in individuality.

So while I love my airbrushed Perfect-Self in the picture, I think I can be happy just being my Best-Self, ever changing, ever improving, always unique.

Viva la Difference!

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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one } April 20, 2009 at 5:45 pm

Jacqui! I had no idea when I saw this picture that it wasn’t the current you. This was a PhotoShop piece? Well, kudos to Jimi, but I gotta say that the photo didn’t capture the great smile, the effervescent personality and the compassionate Jacqui I have come to know. Okay, maybe it’s you with just great lighting. Either way, you’re beautiful on the inside AND outside FOR REAL! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this with the world. Did I mention you’re brave, too? ;-D Val


Kimberly Castleberry April 24, 2010 at 8:23 pm

I looked at the picture repeatedly and had no clue who in the world it was. That’s not the Jacquie that I know with the wonderful personality, bubbly ideas, or beautiful smile! I dunno girlfriend, I’m just not terribly keen on that picture at all! I prefer the Goddess I know and love!
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Jacqueline Gates April 24, 2010 at 8:26 pm

You ladies crack me up! So glad you agree that Photographic Perfection is no substitute for True, Authentic Goddess-ness!


Beverly April 24, 2010 at 8:45 pm

Dear Goddess, You are beautiful from the inside out! “Perfection” is actually so very scary and unable to relate to reality. I look at the tabloids and the many many magazines that line the check outs in the store and feel sad when I think of how many people think they must match up to the pictures and stories that cover the pages. Oh, there are so many things to say, but truly it boils down to the fact that true beauty truly does come within.


Jacqueline Gates April 24, 2010 at 8:54 pm

Goddess Beverly, you’re so right! There’s a huge difference to what’s in the magazines and real life – and nothing beats true authenticity.


Monna Ellithorpe February 22, 2014 at 8:06 pm

Hi Jacqui,

I agree, you are the true you just the way you are. I look at all the many stars who are having face lifts and lip surgery or whatever it is and I would much rather see them grow older gracefully and naturally. Some of them look so…bad!

I guess kind of fun to see what we would all look like but I say be proud of the way you are, no matter who you are.

Have a great evening. Monna
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