That Horrible, Awkward Silence on Webinars Could Be YOUR Fault!

by on June 8, 2011

Picture this.

You’re listening in on a webinar so some brilliant person who’s delivering great stuff you know you’ll use.

And he/she says, “So, does anyone have any questions?”


“Really, is there anything I can help you with? Just press *6 and ask.”


You hear some squirming but still no-one speaks.

What’s up with that??

Is it that everyone in the audience is also an expert and doesn’t need to know anything more?

Not likely.

So why is it that when someone who definitely knows what they’re doing, offers us what amounts to one-on-one live coaching, for free… WHY do we not speak up?

I’ll tell you my theory –

It’s because we still playing small and our ego’s too big.

The nanosecond we hear that question, our inner voice starts up –

  • “They’ll think I’m stupid if I ask that question.”
  • “Who am I to speak to him/her?”
  • “I’ll let someone else speak first.”
  • “I don’t want to sound pushy.”
  • blah, blah, blah

It’s all ego, and it’s all going to keep us stuck exactly where we are.

Next time this happens, I want you to remember these words from the divine Marianne Williamson –

“Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking

so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

And then, Speak UP!

Ask your question.

Take advantage of ‘the generosity of strangers’, and let your voice be heard.

Play BIG!

Or pretty soon, scrumptious one, you won’t be playing at all.

And what a shame that would be.



the goddess known as Jacqui

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{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Kim Nesbitt June 8, 2011 at 3:06 pm

You are so right about this Jacqui…..I was on a call a couple of weeks ago with Daegan Smith and when he asked us if we had any questions….I froze. But, I had a question that I really wanted him to answer… I sucked it up and asked….I was almost terrified right after I asked….would they all think I’m stupid….was my question out of context…all kinds of crazy things went though my head. Then I heard Daegan say, great question Kim….at that point, I was able to relax and hear the answer, but until then I was pretty freaked out. I’m still excited about the fact that he answered my question.
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Jacqueline Gates June 8, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Oh well done on speaking up, Kim!
Isn’t it amazing how we talk ourselves out of doing that thing that will move us forward?
So glad you didn’t this time!
Next time will be even easier 🙂


Richard@Web Design Leeds June 8, 2011 at 4:53 pm

I think often another problem is that people may have questions during a presentation, but by the time they get to the end, they feel that their question was from too long ago and too trivial to ask, or may even have forgotten it.

I think the trick for someone running a webinar is to interact with the audience in multiple places during their presentation, rather than just at the end.


Kellie Hosaka@home business residual income June 9, 2011 at 5:10 am

Bravo Jacqui!

You’re absolutely right! I was always so shy and quiet and one day my mentor gave me a talking to. After that I told myself “Kellie, you can be shy, but don’t be stupid! Ask, otherwise, you’ll never know the answer”. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Now, I’m never afraid to look silly, cause I’d rather be the one who asks tons of questions, than the one who didn’t ask and still doesn’t know the answer.

And I love that Marianne Williamson quote as you know…it’s one of my favorites!

Much love & aloha,
Kellie 🙂
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tenerife weekend June 9, 2011 at 5:46 am

I like statements because they are bold. I think they can work far better than questions if you know how to use them in a powerful way, encouraging the other person to get involved in the conversation.


Party Hire Brisbane October 29, 2011 at 3:23 am

How are you going to feel when you look back on this moment in a few years time. Are you going to regret the fact that you didn’t speak to this guy you liked or are you going to be happy that you did even though the outcome wasn’t as expected.Thanks


Jacqueline Gates November 6, 2011 at 4:24 pm

This idea applies to so many things, doesn’t it? Step up and speak out … the results may surprise you.


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