The Hidden Payoffs That Are Keeping You Stuck!

by on May 2, 2011

You keep trying to change, but you keep staying the same.
You climb out of the rut for a few days or weeks, but fall back in again.
You know what you SHOULD be doing, but you just don’t do it.

Dahlings, this goddess has been there.
And I know how stifling, frustrating and self-esteem killing it can be.

Maybe what we need to do is look at this a little differently.
Stand on your head.
Look at it sideways.
And see what the Payoff is for staying the same.

THAT’s what’s holding you back, sweetie.

And it’s ever so simple to fix once you know it!


So sweetiepie, do you have a situation that you keep ending up back where you started?

  • Quit smoking for a week, but start again the very next time you’re stressed;
  • Lose and regain the same 10lbs?
  • Start a Fahbulous 90 day plan for your business but don’t get past day 15 …

Somewhere in there are some hidden beliefs about the payoffs you think you’ll keep if you don’t rock the boat.

If you’re interested in looking, here’s a few questions to ask yourself:-

  • What situation do I keep ending up in?
  • What’s the payoff? (Keep looking for it, even though it seems crazy!)
  • Is that really true?
  • Can I prove it’s true?
  • Is it a belief that serves me?
  • What can I replace it with?

And as usual, dahling, do let me know what you find.

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Kellie Hosaka @network marketing home business training May 3, 2011 at 1:49 am

Very cool Goddess Jacqui! I love the intro video!

And yes, the hidden payoffs of “staying the same” are definitely with all of us at some point in time. The key is when we are dissatisfied enough, to take a “hard look” and see that we are getting a payoff and truly are “comfortable” where we are or we would make a change.

Congratulations on getting dissatisfied enough to make a change and take the “leap of faith”! You are truly an inspiration!!

Much love,
Kellie 🙂
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Sire May 4, 2011 at 2:54 am

You know what the biggest payoff for people is Jacqueline don’t you, it’s the comfort zone. People find it too hard to leave behind so when things get tough they fall back on it.

Take me and working out. I know all I need to do is to get into a routine but then something goes wrong that interrupts me getting into one and I use that as an excuse not to exercise. My problem is that at them moment it’s not important enough for me to exercise so I use an excuse not to do it, like blogging, having sex with the wife or watching TV. OK, OK, I just threw the sex thing in for effect, I reckon that was just wishful thinking. 😀
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Jo @ Online Marketing Blog May 4, 2011 at 9:43 am

Hi Jacqueline!

You are right! All people unconsciously want to change and progress (except if they are depressed and have no desire for improvement).

Every change requires some kind of sacrifice. That’s why most people find hard time to make the leap to initiate the desired change via taking action.

In the end, who progresses and who does not progress or change comes to how much each individual is willing to sacrifice to get where they want.

Have a wonderful evening.
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Melissa McCloud May 4, 2011 at 4:29 pm

GREAT post jacqui! one of the first ideas i was introduced to in Pers Dvlp was Tony Robbins’ pleasure-pain principles, about how we act because it’s either more pleasurable than painful, or it’s more painful not to take action. you say it much more fabulously! very good way to stop, figure out why we’re doing what we’re doing, and take ACTION. thanks goddess!!!

( <3 and congrats on a long and successful marriage!!!!!!!!!!!)
Melissa McCloud´s last blog post ..I’m So Over People Like YOU


Nicole Rushin May 4, 2011 at 9:54 pm

I will definitely think about this. So many things have changed but so many things still seem to be the same.
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Nancy Shields May 5, 2011 at 6:17 pm

Great thoughts my Goddess friend,

It sounds as if our core beliefs affects our payoffs. You see how simple life truly is – you just ASK!!! I love the revelation –

We choose to keep things the same at times due to the payoffs. It’s mind games we play with ourselves. It sure is a figment of our imagination. We must analyze our lives – Socrates has stated – “a life not examined is not worth living.” (I believe it’s Socrates)…

In gratitude to payoffs,


Joana Goldman@The Cost Of IVF May 18, 2011 at 4:06 pm

this is a really good post. many of us do not like the outcome of what we are doing but we do not hurry in changing it anyway. even when we start doing something about it, we find ourselves quiting after a while. i think sometimes we are too lazy 😛


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