Totally Transform Your Whole Life + Biz With This One (Delicious) Practice (And Introducing The Metaphorical Mentoring Squad)

by on October 31, 2014

If you asked me, what’s the ONE THING that I’ve done over the past year or so that has led to the weight-loss + life-upgrading + 300%-pay-raise that I’ve enjoyed over the past year or so, (and somebody did, btw), I would say it’s this:

Every Monday morning, without fail, I take myself + my journals + my laptop + my magic pen (the silver one with the green ink) to my coffee-shop-office and I have a meeting with my inner CEO + any other metaphorical mentors I might call upon.

This is a scheduled meeting, y’all. Even my menfolk know that it’s set-in-stone immovable.

I dress up a little … because … well, truthfully, I kinda want everyone else to wonder who I am and what I do because I’m so mysterious + wealthy-looking.

The agenda is always the same:

  1. Order luscious coffee(duh… that’s why I go there). Actually, I usually don’t have order because the baristas know my name + what I drink + start making it before I’ve even chose a table. Actually, I always sit at the same table. You remember ‘Cheers’? Yea, like that. Without the beer.Coffee and Notes
  2. Check on intentions set from last weekOnce you’ve read all 5 steps, you’ll see where these come from, but the generally fall into three categories : Self, Family + Nest, and Empire-Building.
  3. What went right?

    It’s ohsoveryimportant to celebrate your wins, supernova. As entrepreneurs, we can get horribly focused on what we’re struggling with … or what’s not selling/converting.  And generally, as unfolding-goddesses, we can get woefully stuck on  stories that don’t serve us. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, ya’ know?But you’re smart enough (and LOA savvy enough) to know that whatever you focus on, you get more of, so it’s hugely impactful to start your week off with a whoo-hoo moment or three.Make a note of what worked in your biz + life-in-general. What new practice did you devote yourself to? What money came in?  More opt-ins? Great conversations on Facebook or Twitter? Did you shed a pound or two?This is no time to be modest, glorious one. Find the fabulous in each category. Write ’em out. With LOTS of exclamation marks. And feel free to smirk smugly to yourself. It makes people wonder all the more.
  4. What went sideways?  (Ahem, there is no ‘wrong’.)Now I have absolutely no doubt you be able to list off these in a flash, but please be gentle with yourself, ok? I’ve found (through years of self-flagellation with what my coach-buddy Janette Dalgliesh calls my Beat-Up-Jacqui-stick) that it’s waaaay more helpful to simply list what didn’t go as hoped with a kind of emotion-less curiosity. Like you’d examine a dead houseplant. Look at the facts + what you did or didn’t do + what actually happened as a result. No going down the rabbit-hole-of-doom-and-recrimination, ok?
  5. Call In Your Metaphorical Mentoring Squad (known from hereon as MMS)Besides my Inner CEO (who knows exactly what my next empire-building step should be), my MMS has an endless roster of cast-members, all expert in their particular field and all immediately on call whenever required.(By the way, inspiration for this practice comes directly from the uber-awesome-and-magical Fabeku Fatumise … one of a bazillionty life-altering nuggets I’ve gleaned from him.)Depending on the question/situation/state-of-the-empire-and-headspace, I could have Oscar Wilde and Yoda and Bill (the other) Gates at my table. I’ve had Coco Chanel remind me that being different is the only way to be irreplaceable and Betsy Johnson insist that eccentricity and uber-creativity MUST go hand in hand. Marilyn Monroe is a regular, as is Hesta (goddess of the home) for obvious reasons and recently, Julie Andrews and Gershwin have been pushing me to sing again. (I’m like, really???)

    The point is … we all have the answers already.

    Psst. The Metaphorical Mentoring Squad is actually all your inner knowing,
    sneakily disguised as people-you-admire.

    Ask your question + relax into letting the answer come. Tap into your knowing. You’ll be ah-mazed at its depth.

  6. Intention-setting for the following week.Once you’ve analyzed + unfolded + discussed, decide what you would like to see happen before your next meeting. First set your intentions (I find my Core Desired Feelings very useful here) and then whittle down to specific targets + action steps.
  7. Move said targets/steps into diary-pages,fitting it round daily life. This is the pivotal part that dances WITH Life, rather than against it.
  8. Finish with a noting of What I’m Taking With Me (new knowledge/income/practices etc)
    and What I’m Leaving Behind (non-serving-crappy stuff).This is a relatively new addition to my meeting and I’m finding it a powerful way to tie-a-bow on the previous week and move clean-slated into the next.

Now, obviously you’ll amend + tweak + drape this agenda to perfectly-fit your business + life + dreams, but this gives you a general idea of how to get the most out of your meeting.

The only thing I would say is non-negotiable is – GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!

There’s a disconnection from day-do-day energy that seems to boost focus + clarify intentions + amp up the big-visioneering. Pretend you’re one of those coffee-shop-millionaires. I always do.

Hope that helps y’all. It’s been transformational for me.

If you have any other questions, post them here in the comments, and if y’all are doing something similar, do share your tips + results. I’d love to hear them.

Of course, any passing-this-on-to-friends or social-media-sharings you feel like doing, would also be muchly appreciated.

Here’s to unfolding a life that’s exactly what you want!

Bliss-ings always,



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{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

Cassie October 31, 2014 at 3:09 pm

Marvelous advice! I am going to start a meeting like this. I love that you’ve outlined the process so it can be rinsed and repeated.
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Jacqueline Gates November 4, 2014 at 10:44 am

Your scripting-magic will slot really easily and very powerfully into this, ms Cassie. Let me know how it unfolds.


Eva October 31, 2014 at 11:15 pm

Thank you for the step by step guidelines…I know many times I take my notebook along and drive down to the lake with my coffee and just spend time by myself…if it’s a nice day, then sit outside, otherwise, stay in the car….I live in an area where there are no upscale coffeeshops…getting take out at Turkey Hill is my only option…for now…
I see now I have to make a weekly date with this concept…yes, I can see getting out of the house is imperative.
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Jacqueline Gates November 4, 2014 at 10:43 am

Sitting in a cozy car with a lake view sounds rather divine to me, ms Eva!


Annette November 4, 2014 at 11:29 pm

Delicious and magical.


Jacqueline Gates November 5, 2014 at 2:08 pm

Muchos appreciated, ms Annette, coming from one who is both of those. *hugs*


anks January 19, 2015 at 9:11 am

I love the idea of this meeting. But as someone who spends about 11 hours out of home each day, I would want to wander to my favourite corner at home and do this!
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Nick February 17, 2015 at 6:54 am

Thanks so much because this post really resonated with me.

I also go to the coffee shop every single day and it certainly helps
with productivity. In addition to this, I also have my own office that
I work out of, so I mix and match between the coffee shop and the office.

I also liked the talk of the “Inner CEO” and this is absolutely crucial. You have
to treat your business like it’s “Major” because it is!

Thanks again for the great thoughtful post.
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Sheri March 10, 2015 at 5:33 pm

Wow, Goddess Jacqui, I LOVE this!! Thank you so much for sharing! A long time ago, and in what feels like a far-away lifetime, I used to take myself on an “artist’s date” once a week (per Julia Cameron). It had to be out of the house and to someplace that felt inspiring to me, it was me and myself only and it sparked creativity in my music and life. My husband and kids completely respected this time and sometimes even brought me ideas of places to go! (I visited local art and photographer’s galleries, pottery shops, hiking trails in beautiful places, parks, cafe’s…. all kinds of places) I had forgotten that I used to do that and how GOOD it felt until I read this post! I’m committing now to put together a new practice like what you described, one that is a good fit for me now.


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