What To Do When You Want To Quit (But Don’t Want To Feel Like A Loser).

by on March 23, 2011

Pink postit note with "I Quit"Sometimes, it’s really hard to know what to do when you Want To Quit … again … but the very thought of doing it makes you shudder.

After all, don’t all the Great Achievers of the world preach persistence and tenacity?

“Never, never, never, never give up.”
– Winston Churchill


That thrill of joy you get whenever you think of not having to do whatever it is that’s driving you to the edge, is tempered by the fear of the unknown.

Fear that you’ll look like a loser.

That you’ll end up worse off.

That you’re 3 feet from gold.

That you’ll regret it.

And yet you still want to QUIT!


Now I’m not advocating becoming the kind of dilettante  that flits from one thing to another and gives up at the first sign of hardship.

Far from it.

But in January 2010, I hit the proverbial bottom.

Nothing was working. I was stuck earning $7 an hour at Starbucks because my MLM was costing me more than I made.

I wanted to quit. Desperately.

So I did.

With Great Success.

Let me explain …

So, do you want to quit something?
Smoking? Your job? Feeling stifled and bored with life?

Have you ever wanted to quit something, but not been able to?

Perhaps it’s time to sit on your windowsill.

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Marilyn Fisher March 23, 2011 at 3:13 pm

I love it My Goddess!!! We will be talking soon!
Magical Marilyn


Marty March 23, 2011 at 3:17 pm

I did this with a network marketing challenge some years ago. I felt pretty bad about it but then a lot of that was down to some low self esteem and guilt. Also some negative driving energy that drained me.
The truth is I never quit despite getting pretty close. I took time for rest and learned some amazing wisdom.
Good article. Thanks.
Marty´s last blog post ..The absolute process of achieving


Julie Elliott March 23, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Thank you Jacqueline for sharing your story and your wonderful video.

I am currently going through this very thought. I have found myself just jumping into things because others are doing it. Then find myself not having the passion in it and going no where, and feeling abandoned as no one wants to help or has time. I guess those are my doors closing, There is so much I want to do but afraid to take the next steps. I start to then stop and get distracted by the next big thing.

I feel sad and proud of those closest to me who are doing so well and are growing but I feel like we are growing further apart and doing less together and seeing the things we talked about doing together wither away.

I am feeling like you did. Just stopping (I feel like quitting) I guess I need to look at where am at and what I can do.

Thank you so much for this today, I really needed it

Love always
Julie Elliott


Martha Giffen March 23, 2011 at 3:32 pm

You know, I had to think about this a while. The one thing I would like to quit is feeling guilty when I don’t get it all done. OK, I’m quitting it. See there? Life will go on! LOL


Ryan Biddulph March 23, 2011 at 4:14 pm

Hi Jacqueline,

Super inspiration!

Releasing precedes acquiring. To move completely into a new way of living release the old way of living: entirely! Uncomfortable? Heck yeah, but this means that you’re growing at a rate more quickly than ever.

Thanks for sharing with us 🙂

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Holly March 23, 2011 at 4:50 pm

I quit teaching several years ago!! To get it going! Well I am now to the point where I am getting it going! I have spent many hours working on moving forward and now the time is right!! With you in my troop of connections, I know I will do it!! Great video! Thanks for believing in me!
Holly´s last blog post ..I Want it and I Want it NOW!


Steve Nicholas March 23, 2011 at 5:25 pm

Great post, Jacqueline! You are so right about the importance of taking a step back and “sitting on the windowsill.” I’ve had frustrations in the world of MLM as well, and I’ve heard the “don’t quit,” but things changed so much (both with me and the company) that I honestly felt like I was doing nothing other than giving them my money. It is always a good idea to figure out where to focus instead of just doing every single thing and saying “I’m going until the end,” because sometimes “the end” could be the bottom.


Diana March 24, 2011 at 3:54 am

Hi Jacqueline,

I quit my corporate job and became a part-time teacher. Basically I quit a 9-5 job and can’t imagine going back to that. And I am definitely moving forward! It’s a good reminder that sometimes, it’s ok to quit 🙂



Nancy Shields March 24, 2011 at 6:29 am

Thank you my Goddess friend,

I did quit 15 years ago from working with dead end jobs and most people thought I was crazy since I had 2 kids and left with no job. Instead, I did what most people said I shouldn’t do – I started working in sales of commercial playground equipment with no customers and only commissions….crazy is what I thought but in the long run and 15 years later it’s been the BEST thing I have done for myself – yes I quit the dead end jobs….so the word FEAR has been thrown into the proverbial waste basket along with the world IMPOSSIBLE!

Now would I quit now with both my playground business and my purpose driven business of MakeGirlfriends.com – ABSOLUTELY not…..it feels like it’s exactly what I’m suppose to be doing so that word is not in my vocabulary…by the way, I love the windowsills…..especially if you have a great view!

In love and light,
Nancy Shields´s last blog post ..THE IMPECCABLE WORD AND ITS POWER …


Nicole Rushin March 24, 2011 at 8:21 am

We can quit on situations but never on ourselves. I can remember waking up one morning about a year ago or maybe longer and a voice came in my head that said ‘When is this nightmare going to be over?’ That was a wake up call because I thought I wanted what I was working towards, but I was beating my head up against the wall trying to get there in a way that was not authentic to me. Above all we must find our own voice in the crowd, above all we must be happy with ourselves first. If you achieve success through frustration it will not stick. If you achieve happiness first all the success in the world is yours to obtain. Happiness is what I have been working towards for the past year or so. Really digging deep to find my own voice – really digging to find happiness. Thanks for sharing the video and letting us know it is okay to revisit the round room on occasion.
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Laura Morris March 24, 2011 at 6:05 pm

My Great Friend The Goddess
You are an inspiration to me in my life, and this story gave me the boost I needed at a sticky point in my life. The only way to fail in life is to quit. Great work…keep climbing and doing what you already know how to do!
Your Friend
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Kellie Hosaka @network marketing home business training March 24, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Aloha dear Goddess!

I am soooo proud of You! I have had the honor of being with you through some of your journey last year and it is a privilege to watch you BEcome!

You have a shining light which I have always seen… as you know. 🙂 I am so happy for you and all your success. Perseverance and growth is the key! It brings me great joy to see you being happy and fulfilled!

Much love,
Kellie 🙂
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Val Wilcox @ Empower Your Life March 28, 2011 at 8:30 pm

Oh Jacqui,
This is exactly the message I needed to hear today. I’ve been busy with another direction for a few weeks and felt totally discouraged with the progress of my blog. Made me feel as if it was all for naught. So I made a decision to “sit on the windowsill” and mull it over. Today I woke with a renewed spirit because of a post idea rattling around inside. 🙂

Needless to say, I’m not stopping, not at all. I have to take action to see results. that’s the key I momentarily misplaced. Your thoughts on quitting, but not stopping says it so clearly. Thank you for being there right when I needed it! There are other doors in that circular room to open and explore. The answers will be there when I need them.

Val 😉
Val Wilcox @ Empower Your Life´s last blog post ..Get Out of Your Own Way


Tammy Matthews March 30, 2011 at 2:11 pm

Always love your videos! I have times where I want to quit – but then I sit and think about what I’m quitting. Then I realize it’s not that I want to quit. I DON’T want to quit what I’m doing, I just want it to work!

Three Feet From Gold is my all time favorite book. When I have down days I can always go to this book and find a way to keep moving forward.
Tammy Matthews´s last blog post ..Overcome The Fear of Failure


Melissa McCloud April 5, 2011 at 3:11 pm

hi jacqui! gosh that vid looks familiar! you blew us all away. i have only known you a short while but the growth i’ve seen in you is both impressive and AMAZING. congrats on sticking to your goals and your guns! and thanks for the winston churchill quote for my arsenal 🙂
Melissa McCloud´s last blog post ..One Down- Three To Go


Joel@Ellensburg Real Estate April 11, 2011 at 11:42 pm

Moving on is part of life. Sometimes this means failing and moving on. If we were all good at everything we tried then we would all have successful and boring lives which we would soon grow tired of. Change and evolve succeed and fail.


Jacqueline Gates April 12, 2011 at 11:56 am

Absolutely, Joel.
Nothing stays the same ~ although many people try to avoid change as much as they can.
You’re either growing or decaying.
It’s our choice as to which.


waterpearls April 28, 2011 at 8:35 am

Hi Jacqueline,
Nice and intereting tutorial.Sometimes I want to quite what I am doing but later I think it is not good to quite and then again I am moving forward and life is going on like this way.
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Nabil@Morning Sickness Remedies May 17, 2011 at 10:35 am

A great book to read about this topic of quitting or hanging on is The Dip by Seth Godin.


George Williams@Tractor games May 17, 2011 at 7:30 pm


When you want to quit (bad things) then, there will always be God Who will help you, He will be the 1st one to help you. At least that’s how I live and a lot of my friends live like this too. Thank you very much for sharing this article!

George Williams@Tractor games´s last blog post ..Tractors Power


Kaizou June 1, 2011 at 8:03 am

Moving on, Not giving up, Quitting, is all part of making our life more colorful. As long as we decide on choices that does not degrade, offend and stomp on other peoples lives, you are on the right track. Challenges makes us tougher, smarter, formidable and wise. Quitting is not so bad as long as it is for the betterment of your life and the people around you. Like Quitting smoke – it is very beneficial to all. But that example is too obvious.
Sometimes, at work, we need to quit your current job if you really want to pursue your dream job of becoming a pianist, or a dancer, or even a rap artist. As long as it is possible.
Quitting is a tough decision to make for those who persevere to make things work out right, and an easy habit for quitters by nature. What matters is that we grow maturely everyday, but retain our childlike nature. That makes us human.


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