Why I Adore Washing Dishes

by on February 4, 2013

Now, you might think I’m weird, or perhaps completely bonkers, but this goddess absolutely adores washing dishes.

After dinner is done, Husband Muffin goes off to do some work in the office, Youngest Tax Deduction goes off to study, and the hubbub of lively conversation is replaced with the clink of freshly scrubbed glasses, china goes in grubby and comes out clean.

Up to my elbows in hot soapy water, I relish the peace. I’m grateful for the hot water pours forth at the turn of a knob, that I have beautiful dishes, and good food to serve on them.

I swish,

and think,

and rinse,

and thank.

Believe me, sweetheart, it wasn’t always this way.

In the old days, when I was stuck and fed up and quietly desperate about how life was rushing by, unlived and unfulfilled, Iย  used to get all snarky and pouty at having to clean up all by myself after I’d cooked the whole bloody meal … all by myself!

I’d sigh loudly and bang cupboard doors, just so everyone would be VERY aware that I’d rather be doing something else. But when Husband Muffin would offer to help, which he always did, I’d be all, “No, I’ll do it. It’s quicker that way.” or some other equally pathetic whine.

Can we say … abject martyrdom? I had it down pat!

But as I stepped up to and into full-blown goddess-iness, I began to realize that this simply wouldn’t do.

After all, one cannot be a mighty champion of living a luscious life if one is going to spend every evening whining over a limp dishrag, now, can one?

No, gentle reader. A drastic re-frame was in order.

Now before I continue, I do want to mention that I do, in fact, own a dishwasher (the machine kind), but I’veย  loved washing up since I was big enough to stand on a chair at my mother’s sink … and I was really only using it as a weapon to make myself feel better by making everyone else in the family feel worse.

Sooooo … how would a goddess do the dishes, or for that matter, any other otherwise tedious and mundane household task?

Well, the answer was, she wouldn’t if she didn’t want to,

or she’d damn well find a way to enjoy it.

(Of course, scrumptious one, you are a smart cookie and totally get that this applies to more than just dish-washing, right? But for the moment, we’ll just stick to this as a metaphor for life-lusciousness in general. Ok? On we go.)

So for example, a goddess who absolutely loathes washing up might put it on her list of “Things To Stop Doing” and outsource it to the machine under the counter or nearest offspring.

Or ….

She could do as I did and totally reframe it.

Since Husband Muffin has to work in the evenings, and the Son has college work to do, I decided I would find a way to relish my evening chore and turn it into a moment of meditative motion.

I made it a full-sensory experience with pretty gloves (DO note the matching brush … makes me smile) and deliciously scented, good-for-the-planet soap.

Making Chores Pretty! Making Chores Pretty!

 

I began to see it as an opportunity to be thoroughly grateful for the ordinary miracles of modern day life …

Grateful that I didn’t have to carry the water on my head or on my back, from the only well, two miles from home.

Grateful that I didn’t have to make a fire to heat the water.

Grateful for the gorgeous dishes I’m cleaning and the nourishing food they held.

Grateful for the people I’d shared my meal with.

Just.

Grateful.

And for those few minutes, regardless of the past, or the future,
I am fully,
deeply,
PRESENT.

And that’s not a chore at all.

 

Bliss-ings and huge love,

JacquiName1

 

 

 

 

 

 

PS Do you have something you absolutely loathe doing around the house? How could you reframe that? ย I’d absolutely love to hear about it, so do share your thoughts in the comments, won’t you?

PPS Sometimes it’s very hard to see the solution to a problem when you’re up to your eyelashes in it. That’s where a coach comes in rather handy. Here’s how I can help.

 

 

 

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Linda Gaume February 4, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Dear goddess,
It has been a while…just had to let you know how much I enjoyed your post
Being grateful is something that seems to have gone by the wayside
These days with do many people… So in a rush and
Wanting to have everything now not tomorrow.
I am so grateful that in the past 3-4 years now I have learned
For myself how to slow down and enjoy life now…not for what
In the future will bring.
When you think about it and realize we only have now
Tomorrow may never come…enjoy every moment
Thank you goddess it was lovely stopping by.
Linda ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Jacqueline Gates February 5, 2013 at 6:49 pm

Ms Lindaaaaa!! *rushes over to hug you*

So good that you came to visit and to share your wisdom.
You’re so right about us not taking time to enjoy life as it is NOW ~ definitely a skill worth cultivating.

Bliss-ings and love
the goddess known as Jacqui

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Lisa February 6, 2013 at 1:26 am

Goddess,

I love your matching scrub brush!
Thank you for reminding me to find some pleasure in the everyday. In the end that’s the key to happiness isn’t it? Most days are every day, days aren’t they?

Love you!

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Jeannette February 6, 2013 at 12:20 pm

You are SUCH a delight, Jacqui! And you’re right, these words of wisdom are well applied to ANY chore/responsibility we don’t delight in.

Thanks for an inspiring take on it! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Roger February 8, 2013 at 3:34 am

Oh! This is such a better way to enjoy a tedious task at home in the kitchen. If one starts enjoying all the tasks or finds a better way to do it with ease, they can actually finish off the work faster and do not even get angry over doing it everyday. This is a great way to do jobs that irritate us actually. Thanks for sharing.

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Line Brunet February 8, 2013 at 2:55 pm

Great re-frame! I too was the banging kind. Poor me slaving away and have since come to enjoy the warm water (because my hands are always cold) and the time that I get to spend dreaming and scheming. My other love? Vaccuuming!

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Diane Marie February 8, 2013 at 4:36 pm

LOL! I love how you make the daily chores an act of divine feminine energy! WE can find joy in anything we do, if we choose to.

Although I am only 1 and I don’t have to clean up much except for myself, I think I will put a little flavor into it in the future.

Thank you for a fabulicious and delightful post.

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Suzanne Michelle February 8, 2013 at 6:02 pm

Everyone who knows me well, knows what it means when I say “I’m going to go scrub floors now”. It’s my way of reminding myself about my humble nature and feeling grateful for everything I have. I love scrubbing floors. I get out my knee-pads and my scrubber and away I go. Love this post!

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Louise Edington February 8, 2013 at 9:23 pm

Hmmm with my lively Gemini moon I am not big on housework and tidying, I would rather be writing, doing my astrology, chatting on facebook….. For a brief while when my kids were little I tried on the domestic Goddess (hehe) role for a while and almost enjoyed it for a while. Then I got bored. Each to their own, it was a fabby post xx

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Suzie Cheel February 9, 2013 at 9:17 pm

Hi Jacqui,
I love your enthusiasm for washing dishes-I rarely wash up- I cook and Des washes up. Re housework- when i have time love to get in and clean not on a regulars basis though ๐Ÿ™‚ PS your comment luv is not working- mine was the same thius week- maybe an update !

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Michelle Dobbins February 10, 2013 at 8:35 pm

I love this post. I feel this way about menu planning and grocery shopping. It makes me feel so prosperous and grateful that there is such an abundant supply of foods I didn’t have to grow, that I can easily afford. Also, i can find so many cool free recipes online. I can get blissed just feeding my family, lol.

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Adam February 11, 2013 at 5:59 am

Well, everyone adores different things and most of us learn to do so after we know that we do not have any other option. I had this similar problem when my father used to hand me watering can and ask me to water the plants in our huge garden. I was such a lazy person, but eventually I started finding it fun and stopped complaining.

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Kellie Hosaka @social network marketing February 13, 2013 at 3:16 pm

Aloha Jacqui!

I love it! It’s true, we all have things we don’t enjoy doing and we can either loathe doing them or find a way to enjoy them! I love how you did that with the dishes & the gorgeous gloves! It may be another unique item for you to market! ๐Ÿ™‚

We have so much to be grateful for each and everyday. Living with gratitude brightens the “lens” and magnifies the beauty of life and all of it’s gifts.

Thank you for always “shinning your light” and brightening up our day!

Much love & aloha,
Kellie ๐Ÿ™‚

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Arianne@print estimating software February 14, 2013 at 5:58 pm

I really don’t like washing dishes. Thumbs up for you! You are one-of-a-kind woman for me.

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claudia February 20, 2013 at 2:57 pm

Love this post… I too like washing dishes but should wear gloves!
My ‘ritual’ of gratitude is sweeping the floors in our tiny house… I give thanks to “all that IS” for all the blessings our little family enjoys… including our jewel of a house that likes to be clean and sparkly!

love & light,
Claudia

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Jacqueline Gates February 20, 2013 at 6:14 pm

Claudia, I love sweeping too! I have a leopard print broom!

Did you know that in Bali, the women sweep their floors every morning as a kind of meditation/ritual as part of their prayers? Clearing out the old stale energy and giving thanks for ‘all that is’. I’ve always loved that thought and it sounds like you’ve got it nailed.

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Vickie Young February 20, 2013 at 5:51 pm

I love this! Washing dishes reminds me of my mother and grandmother washing dishes in the days before automatic dishwashers. The scent of Palmolive takes me back to my childhood when things were simpler. Or so it seemed!

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Jacqueline Gates February 20, 2013 at 6:12 pm

Isn’t it interesting, Vickie, that those were the days before all the modern appliances, and yet we call them ‘simpler times’. I’m always so amazed that with all the electric help we have with housework nowadays, we still have so little time. How did our grandmothers do it?

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Lisa February 20, 2013 at 6:42 pm

I am all in for sweeping my floors as a meditation. I’ve got three dogs and a five year old human. Floor sweeping feels constant in my house. That would put a new spin on things.

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Jacqueline Gates February 24, 2013 at 3:12 pm

Sweeping my kitchen floor is that last ‘house blessing’ thing I do every evening after dinner’s been cleaned up. I do love the feeling that I’m clearing out what’s left of the old day and preparing for the new, but I’ll admit, most of the time it’s simply self-preservation because I almost always pad into the kitchen in the morning in bare feet lol

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Danielle February 20, 2013 at 7:55 pm

Hi gorgeous goddess circle sister!
While I don’t have my cup of tea and an hour to read through blogs I laughed out loud when you wrote the ‘tax deduction’ youngster… I had a baby boy 15 months ago and my accountant emailed me congratulating me for my tax deduction and I did not think it was funny. But now I get it ๐Ÿ™‚ Loved your blog. Yes I hate grocery shopping… it just reminds me how I don’t have a farm with wild fruits and veggies growing abundantly. So a solution? Well perhaps I could pretend it is all from ‘my’ farm (since we’re all one right?) and see it as my giant bodega where my fruits ripen…I pay to contribute to the supply of more food to come… yeah I dunno…maybe you can help me out with that one? I’ll meditate on it. I can definitely be grateful like a happy dancing fairy for the abundance of food that is available even in the desert heat of Las Vegas! That I can do. I do smile from ear to ear when I find a good ripe watermelon!

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Jacqueline Gates February 24, 2013 at 3:17 pm

Greetings, gorgeous one and welcome to my online nest!

Sounds to me that you’ve already got the gratitude bit nailed. I like to waft round my local farmers’ market pretending I’m the Lady of The Manor, choosing from the bountiful harvest that green-thumbed people have cultivated on my land! Since the only thing I’ve ever been able to grow is herbs and a few pot plants, I’m so grateful that they share their harvest with me.

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Nathalie Villeneuve February 20, 2013 at 10:59 pm

OK…I think I will get me some of those pretty gloves and matchinh gloves…LOL. It makes sense to enjoy these moments as we know so well that they are sure to repeat themselves every S I N G L E day……hmmm..I always rush throught cleaning my kitchen. I will give this whole sensory experience a try…I’ll let you know how it goes after 21 days…LOL

Great share …Thank you

P.S. You looked beautiful today on our masterming call…I love seeing you glow…Ciao!

Nathalie

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Jacqueline Gates February 24, 2013 at 3:19 pm

Have I mentioned how much I adore you, Nathalie??!! You’re always my inspiration when I’m looking to add more art to my life … so I’m glad to return the favor. In my opinion, there’s no point hating something you have to do daily …. what a waste of energy and life! Far better to either find a way to make it luscious, or get someone else to do it. Either way works.

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Donna February 21, 2013 at 12:12 pm

I’m so glad you’re back and sharing your Goddess-y-liciousness! Either don’t do it or find a way to love it! Perfect advice…I did the same with my tax return. I now do it with music turned up LOUD and in sections. Bit by bit it isn’t so boring! xx

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Diane Clark March 6, 2013 at 10:03 am

A truly fresh perspective. Your post produced a deep impression on me. I guess I’ll recollect your words whenever I have hard time washing the dishes. You are totally right. We should be grateful. Always.

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JoLynn Braley March 25, 2013 at 1:55 pm

What a beautiful mindset you have!! What makes anything easy whether it be chores, healthy eating, exercise, or staying motivated is the right mindset! Thanks for the inspiration & thank you for sharing!

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Steven Robertson August 19, 2014 at 4:45 pm

I loved this! you know, I find washing the dishes very therapeutic, I often take 5 out of my working day to go wash em, takes my mind off things, and calms me down.

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Sapana April 24, 2016 at 5:13 am

Hi, I loved the positive thinking about the dish washing work. and the way you put your thoughts in here. Agree everything depends on how you look at it.
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