Your Backstage Pass to TMI

by on September 29, 2014

There’s been soooo much going on in my private life (ok, in my head, mostly, with occasional spill-overs into Facebook + thishereblog) that it’s been rather walk-the-line tricksy to know where keep-this-to-yourself ends and this-might-help-others begins, ya’ know?

I deeply believe that (eventually) your mess becomes your message,
but in empire-building + movement-creation (which is without a doubt what I’m here to do) there’s such a thing as positioning.

That’s really just a fancy marketing term for
looking like someone whose got their act together before they actually have. It’s the idea that leaders don’t publicise their flaws/struggles/daily-crap.

But I got to thinking …

is that really true?

(As we progress with this conversation,
you’ll find that question crops up a lot. A LOT.)

I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not.

True, I mean.

At least, not any more

Case in point, when FDR was running for president,
he was almost never shown in a wheelchair
or with his leg-braces on.
They (ie his campaign managers) thought that any sign of weakness would hamper his election chances.

(Sidenote: Did you guys see the PBS docu-lisciouness on
The Roosevelts? OMgawd, how inspiring! Highly recommended.)

And yet, look at Oprah today.
Seriously, that woman is transparency personified.
We’ve watched her lose + gain + lose weight
for a decade or more.
We watched her icey rage over the betrayal of James Frey,
awestruck at her implacable demand for truth + accountability.
We’ve watched her declutter + sample + search
and where she goes, millions follow.

That kind of over-sharing could/would never have happened a few decades ago
but now, it’s almost required.

With so much information at our fingertips these days,
we are no longer following the ones-who-know-stuff.

Now we follow those who have
lived stuff and who are not afraid to show us where they’ve been and what they went through to get where they are and what they’re still dancing with as they move forward.

There’s risk involved here.

Transparency can be treacherous.

In the eyes of some, too much searching makes you look lost.

Too much changing-your-mind comes across as flakey.

Too many questions make you seem un-knowing.

But I’ve come to realize that searching is how you find,
changing-your-mind is how you explore
and questions are the key to knowledge.

What I’m trying to say here is that
I’m ready to show you what I’ve been through and more importantly,what I’m going through right now.

Because I’m here
to help you love your life more and the best way to do that is by showing you what I’ve done to end up with a life I love and what I’m doing right now to uplevel it to even better-liciousness!

You saw the
ch-ch-changes that I hinted at a few months back, right?

Well, brace yourself, gorgeous one.

We’re about to raise the curtain on this epic production
and while it’s ok to squint into the spotlight, the days of standing in the wings are over!

You are hereby awarded a shiny-pink back-stage pass.
You’re going to see how the glamourous gown
is often held together with safety pins and tailor’s tape.You’re going to see the script-writing and the rehearsals and all the giggles + tears + facepalms that go on in between.

And let me tell you … I find this most unsettling.

Because, you know, there are probably going to be some illusions shattered and bubbles burst.
You’re going to see me naked

(metaphorically speaking … it’s ok, you can breathe again)

Inadvertantly I’ve created an illusion of having-it-all

and while I definitely have it mostly together
it’s certainly not a 24-hour thing.

And every up-level has its own speed-bumps + plateaus + where-the-hell-am-I/’s.

My hope is that amongst all this candour + honesty + (possibly probably) TMI,
you’ll get something you can use.

Or something that lights you up.

Or something that just makes you realize you’re not alone.

Because you’re not.

*hugs you gently*

Ooh I can hear the overture.


Bliss-ings + more-than-a-few butterflies,





PS And here’s where YOU come in, supernova. What would you like to know first?
Nothing’s off limits … just tell me how I can help.

Pop into the comment section and transmit.

(Or email me if it’s wildly not-for-public)

PPS: While there’s going to be a lot shared here in public, the reallyreally personal juiciness always go to my List Lovelies first. Join us here. You’ll get my world famous Goddess Winks twice a week too, which is fab all by itself.



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{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Ginny October 3, 2014 at 1:08 pm

Jacqui I LOVE this! So well written and good for you! I will look forward to learning the true you 🙂


Jacqueline Gates October 3, 2014 at 6:28 pm

Ginny love, the ‘true me’ has never been hidden … just not broadcast, y’know? But it’s time. Because transparency teaches.


Donna October 15, 2014 at 7:33 am

Ah, the joys of true transparency. It is terrifying to be vulnerable, it’s scary to expose yourself…but I know that everytime I do, I connect more deeply with my people, because instead of that untouchable know-it-all, scared of being ‘found out’, they see a real person – flawed, imperfect…beautiful and unique. Congratulations, and I look forward to peeking behind the curtain! xxx
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