There’s an entire corner of the coaching industry devoted to finding your money blocks, healing your money wounds, reparenting your inner child around money, or recalibrating your money mindset.
It’s a very busy corner. Lucrative, too. And most of them do good work.
But what if – stay with me here – what if you chose instead to become someone who didn’t have any to find or fix?
What if the coordinates of your identity simply didn’t include someone who has money blocks?
What if that entire genre of personal development became obsolete simply because you stopped seeing yourself as a person who needed it?
Take smoking. I have never needed a quit-smoking coach – not because I had iron willpower, but because I’ve never identified as a smoker. Even when my husband and all my friends smoked, and I soooo wanted to do the whole glamourous cigarette holder thing. I chose otherwise. I simply decided that wasn’t part of my self-concept. So all the tactics, programs, and interventions available were irrelevant to me. They held no charge. No pull. No narrative to unravel.
Make sense?
That’s what this article is about. You won’t be pretending, or bypassing or avoiding anything.
You’re choosing a different lens altogether – and then letting your life reshape itself accordingly.
Which it must.
It’s law.
You’ll Find What You’re Looking For
In the theatre, there’s a phrase every actor knows: “Find your light.”
It means that when you step into the spotlight, you don’t wait for someone to reposition it. You actively look for it. You find it. You step into illumination by choice.
Money work is like that, too.
Most people have been taught to go searching for shadows – for what’s broken, what’s in the way, what’s wrong. And of course, if that’s your stance, that’s what you’ll find.
But what if you tilted your chin differently?
What if you looked for evidence that you’re someone who doesn’t have money blocks?
What if your financial reality isn’t broken — it’s just under-directed?
The Real Magic Trick
A client once told me a story about a well-known actor whose identity arc is the perfect allegory for this work.
In high school, he wasn’t particularly interested in theatre. He joined because of a sports injury … and because that’s where the girls were. Duh.
But something happened on stage. He realised, “I could become anyone.”
When his family moved across the country, he seized the moment. At the new school, no one knew him. So he started dressing like a trust fund baby. Thrifted cashmere sweaters. Loafers. An expensive watch (borrowed). He presented as Old Money.
He wasn’t lying. He was spotlighting a version of himself that had been lurking in the wings.
He was becoming.
Wallace Wattles would call this “a person of increase” – someone who leaves others with the impression that they’re going somewhere.
One night, a talent scout spotted him at a bar. Not because of anything he said, but because of how he looked. He didn’t win the modelling competition she encouraged him to enter, but he got a contract anyway. That one ‘yes’ led to two luxury brand campaigns. Then to television. Then to fame.
You see where I’m going with this, yes?
He wasn’t acting poor while trying to fix it. He was acting as someone whose reality didn’t include money issues and recalibrating to it. And naturally, the world responded accordingly.
Cary Grant famously said, “I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person. Or he became me.”
This is transmogrification. To change something in such extraordinary ways it seems like magic.
Because it is.
You Can’t Fix What Isn’t Yours
Let’s say you wanted to stop being someone with money blocks – remembering that you weren’t born with them and they were probably foisted on you, with or without you knowing.
How would you move?
How would you speak?
What would you not do?
You probably wouldn’t say:
- “I can’t afford it.”
- “That’s too expensive.”
- “Must be nice…” (with that particular sneer of financial resentment)
You wouldn’t default to the cheapest option. You wouldn’t filter every shopping page from low to high. You wouldn’t keep reminding yourself – and the algorithm – that you don’t have money.
Even the act of looking for money blocks presupposes you have them.
And while I understand the usefulness of excavating subconscious beliefs, too many women have turned it into a lifelong treasure hunt. Addicted to the fixing. Disempowered by the very tools that were supposed to free them.
I’m done with that. Aren’t you?
The Glamorous Alternative
I don’t go looking for money blocks.
I go looking for luxury. For signs of a woman who lives exquisitely. For glimmers of the life I know is mine, even if it’s not fully here yet.
Then I imprint them on my current life. Not from scarcity or delusion, but from devotion.
I upgrade things. I add richness. I revel in the luxuriousness that is, in the happy expectation of more to come.
If, as Walt Whitman said, we contain multitudes, why wouldn’t I choose the version that’s is at ease with money.
Not because the old version was wrong. But because the new version is what I want.
Here’s What That Looks Like
- I whip heavy cream in a milk frother, spoon it onto my morning coffee, and dust it with cocoa powder. Because I am not a paper cup girl.
- I shop consignment and feel like a treasure-hunting heiress. I’m not interested in trends. I’m curating a vibe.
- I upgraded my pillow to the same one used in five-star hotels. I travel every night in my sleep. I’ve also got my eye on the sumptuous bathrobe they offer aboard Cunard cruises.
- I treat time like the ultimate luxury. I coach only three days a week. I take one long weekend every month. I choose spaciousness.
- I created a signature style that is unmistakably mine. More Old Hollywood than off-the-rack. Because your clothes don’t just speak about you — they speak to you.
- I check my accounts like a rich woman. Because she doesn’t flinch. She knows. She tracks. She tends.
- I bought a single share in a company I believe in. Just one. Because my brain needs evidence that I am a woman who invests.
- I decluttered every drawer, every cupboard, every closet. I released everything that whispered “making do.” There is no room in my home — or my psyche — for anything that does not rise to meet me.
This is money work.
Not in a workbook. Not in a journal prompt. In my life.
Becoming a Woman Who Doesn’t Have Money Blocks
Here’s what I’ve noticed: most people define themselves by their deficits. Especially when it comes to money.
But what if you defined yourself by your direction?
What if you believed more in your capacity to expand, than your capacity to fix?
This is what I mean when I say, “Acting-As-If is not faking. It’s deliberate embodiment.”
You don’t have to perform wealth. You don’t have to cosplay affluence. But you do have to decide who you are becoming – and then start casting yourself in that role and gather the evidence accordingly.
No one ever became rich by identifying as blocked.
It’s not that you never doubt, never fear, never fumble. Oh dear gawd no! We all do that, on big stages or small.
It’s just that you stop making those things your identity. And in my experience, that changes everything.
Final Thought: Stop Digging
As the old cliche goes, “If you’re in a hole, stop digging”.
If you’re trying to feel like a wealthy woman, you need to stop affirming your scarcity by seeking out what’s broken.
Look for evidence of who you’re becoming rather than who you were.
Upgrade something.
Choose beauty, spaciousness, and whatever else feels rich to you.
Feel fabulous now.
And let the future arrive dressed for the role.
Ready to Work With Me?
If you’re ready to stop diagnosing yourself and start directing your life with elegance, power, and possibly a little Old Hollywood glamour – we should talk.
My private coaching isn’t a program – it’s a couture collaboration. It’s where potent women come to refine their edge, claim their space, and move with the kind of self-assurance that turns heads and opens doors.
We don’t focus on mindset tweaks or morning routines. We direct your reality, scene by scene, from the inside out.
This is legacy work. Identity work. Leading Lady work.
It’s not for everyone. But if you’ve been waiting for someone who sees the you beyond the current storyline — I already do.
I don’t fix. I reflect. I don’t teach from templates. I transmit from my Knowing and lived experience.
If that sounds like the support you’ve been waiting for, you can explore working with me here, or reach out directly and we’ll begin a delicious conversation.
Let’s script your next scene, darling.
The spotlight (and money) is waiting.
Bliss-ings
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