Jacqueline Gates

Be The Leading Lady of Your Own Damn Life

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“Be the Leading Lady of your Own Damn Life” is more of a mission statement than a tag line.

The term ‘lady’ obviously has a LOT of historical baggage and patriarchal/racist/classist weight on it – of which I’m acutely aware.

“Leading Lady” is different though.

In opera, theater and film, the Leading Lady the female (or femme presenting) person in the starring role.

There are synonyms – diva, prima donna – that mean the same thing, but the energy of the words is not the same.

The moniker of Leading Lady has a grace and accessibility infused in it that the terms ‘diva’ and ‘prima donna’ simply … don’t.

For me, a leading lady is ambitious and kind;
exclusive and inclusive;
unapologetically claiming her spotlight without stomping on the chorus to get it.

My favorite Leading Ladies?
Mae West
Michelle Obama
Auntie Mame
RuPaul

I’m not diminishing anyone who aspires to or resonates with being either a prima donna or diva.

The world needs as many strong womxn as are prepared to take the stage.

However, I am not that.

I do not use words like ‘slay’ or ‘hustle’. I have been called a badass many a time, but the word tastes foreign to me.

But don’t make the mistake of underestimating my power.

There is steel under this glamour.
My effervescence is simply the top layer of depths you cannot fathom.
And I bring all of that to my coaching sessions and classes.

The Leading Lady life is not for sissies, no matter how un-warrior-like it may look from the front.

Powering up is not the same as powering over, although those you left behind may feel it that way.

Putting yourself in the center of your life is how and when your life changes.

Your life – Starring YOU.

Isn’t it time you took back full creative control of your story arc, your wardrobe, your surroundings and your desires?

If so, I’m the plot twist you’ve been looking for.

Curtain up!

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PS A little backstory for you

Pictorial evidence of my own emerging.

  • Me, 2017
  • Me, 2019

The results of my unique meld of STAGECRAFT AND COACHING!

One of my Mastermind buddies asked if I was going to use “Frumpy to Fabulous” as part of my marketing.

Even as she clarified that she didn’t mean that I was frumpy in 2017. lol

She wasn’t far wrong though.

There’ve been times where I would’ve been quick to accept that tag line, thereby labeling the ‘before’ as less-than.

But what I realize now is that any ‘Before’ picture is neverEVER a less-than.

IT’S SIMPLY A ‘BEFORE’.

ie where I started.

It’s neutral.

I only know that I didn’t feel good,
I didn’t feel like ME.

My thought wasn’t so much, “I am not this.”

It was, ‘I am more than this.”

And that’s the message I want to give my clients and anyone who reads my words..

If you know you’re not who you’re showing up as,
there’s no shame in that.

And nothing to regret.

You just start where you are with what you have.

Which is exactly what I did.

Only you don’t have to take 2 years to do it.

By the end of three months of 1:1 coaching with me, you will see so much YOU-ness –
in your head, your home, your mood and your money –
that you be addicted to the thrill of it all.

You’ll see doors where there once were walls, as a wise person said.

You can find out more on the Work With Me page.

I hope that you decide to walk through this door.

I strongly suspect that your Future Self hopes you do too.

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