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How to Make Change Stick.

June 12, 2012 by Jacqueline Gates Filed Under: Musings

Part of the journey from Stuck to UNstuck is becoming comfortable with discomfort of
BEING your new self.

There’s always a push-me-pull-you effect going on between
the old ‘normal’ and the way you’re making normal now.

In other words, if in your ‘stuck’ days you did this,
then there’s the pull to do that again every time your new-found gloriousness
feels a bit overwhelming or strange.

Darling heart, it’s totally normal to feel that pull.

And potentially disastrous to succumb to it.

It takes … DECISION to hold your new space.
Awareness.
Trust!

It takes a big YES to the Universe.

A firm and definite statement ,

“I’m moving forward. I’m going for this’.THIS is what I want
and I will not accept a compromise.”

(If you ever doubt the sheer undiluted power of an uncompromising YES, watch this video.)

 

This is where I’ve been for the past week or so.

I finally surrendered to being uncomfortable for a while.

Trusting my inner guidance.

Being uncertain in my certainty.

I  honed my mission statement into crystal clarity,
and asked for a sign that it was the right move.

The answer came by having  the door to my comfort zone
(very lovingly) slammed shut
by a fellow cocoon-buster.

Scary-cool and oh so liberating.

And this new Goddess-Jacqui-self (note the capital G! That’s new.)
is finding that she wants to change
E V E R Y T H I N G !!!

Clear out, de-clutter, move, shift, alter, get rid of.

But then more prudent/frugal/fearful old stuck self
keeps wagging her finger, urging caution.

Sensible-ness.

“Don’t give that away – you might need it.”
“Don’t burn that bridge – you might need to go back.”

And new empowered-Goddess-Jacqui-self says,
“Back is no longer an option.”

Oh my heavens, how exhilarating/terrifying/liberating is that?

I’ve been back and forth sooooo much over the past year ~
powerfully certain one day,
hiding out in doubt the next,

I became an expert in something I don’t want!!

So I changed my focus,
started looking for stability.
I had to find out what it is that makes change stick.

What keeps you moving forward when the euphoria of a new awareness wears off?

What helps you hold on to your vision of full-bloomed brilliance
even when you lose sight of it yourself?

The answer, my darling wayfinder, is to find yourself an ALLY.

Someone who is as invested in your growth as you are.

Someone who will hold up the mirror so you can see your own worth.

Someone who will point out potholes and cliff-edges because she’s walked this way before.

Sometimes, that ally can take the form of a really wise friend. Or two.

Sometimes, you’ll luck upon a whole group of them all together ~
like the ones I found at Good Vibe University
and the Goddess Circle.

Or you can take the shortcut,
and gift yourself a coach.

But however you do it, darling heart,
whatever path you choose,
it’s time to MOVE along that path.

It’s time to go from Stuck

to UNstuck

and FLY.

Bliss-ings,

 

 

 

 

 

 

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful
than the risk it took to blossom.”
~Anais Nin

 

 

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